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Part 4 of 4: Sharing Household Chores

3,751 views · Published 6 February 2015 · 16:36 · Indexed 25 October 2026

Channel: CJ Liu · 2015 · Howto & Style

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Jonathan Robinson and CJ role play and offer ideas on how you can handle a squabble about who does what on the home front, and how to handle when your partner doesn't live up to their agreements.
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* Part 1: 12 most common arguments couples have: https://youtu.be/8OWhk-WCizU

* Part 2: Your partner wants to spend more quality time with you.
https://youtu.be/imeDaiy1LE0

* Part 3: Your partner and you disagree with how to spend money. https://youtu.be/aT6dV5_zRIM

* Part 4: Your partner and you are having issues with splitting domestic duties and your partner often times makes promises that they don't keep. https://youtu.be/8AYn8XW8p3s

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Most married couples are both working at jobs to make ends meet. While both are bringing in money, many couples have been raised in households where moms do the majority of the housework. Equity is often the big issue that couples argue about. The cultural expectation is for the woman of the household to contribute domestically and the man financially, which may, however, cause strife if either party feels that there is an imbalance in provisions.   

Here is a sample of how you could reach an agreement on this hot topic: 

1) Appreciate your partner: I appreciate that you care deeply about your job and that it’s super demanding.  You are a great father and I appreciate how much love and guidance you offer kids. Both of us are trying our best to take care and provide for our family. 

2) Say What you see as the problem or what you’d like him to her to change:  I am feeling a bit overwhelmed with all the household chores there are to do every month.  Normally, it’s whoever gets more bothered by the mess that cleans it up.  That’s usually me, and as a result I feel like I’m doing larger than my share of cleaning and taking care of chores. We both provide for the family, and I’d like us to both chip in on taking care of the less glamorous cleaning work that needs to happen to create a nice peaceful environment at home. 

3) Ask Partner for input and solutions.  I know that we have talked about us splitting the household chores, but I think we have to review the list of things that need to be done, agree on how often they need to be done, and then split the responsibility in ways that make sense for us. Do you have any initial ideas of how to split this work? 

4) Negotiate an Experimental Solution: I’m thinking that we could take a list of chores, look at how much time they take, and then what things we are good at doing, and then allocate this so it’s more evenly split.  

5) Declare your agreement: Let’s just try this out for a month and see how it goes.  If it doesn’t work, then we can change it.  Ok?

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