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Golden Thriving

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Channel: Mark Smith Family Tree Life Coaching · 2017 · People & Blogs

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Mark Smith discusses Chapter 7 of his new book 'The Alchemists - Transforming Narcissistic Abuse Into Gold'

Mark E. Smith, MSW is the Founder and Director of Family Tree Life Coaching. He previously worked as a highly respected therapist and author in the Indianapolis area for 32+ years. He now practices as a Life and Relationship Coach. He offers coaching for individuals, couples, families, family businesses, executive leaders, pastors, and therapists. He has world class coaching expertise in Affair Recovery, Relationship Issues, Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome, Sexual Addiction, Abuse, Trauma, Complex PTSD, Anxiety, Mid-Life Issues, Shame and Abandonment Issues. If you need a safe, courageous, cutting, marriage-jolting healer, he is your guy. You can contact Mark Smith at [email protected] and 317-507-8866.

4. Emotional Depth - going through this process will make you DEEP!  You say well, “I don't want to be that damned deep – the price of admission is too steep. I didn't want to be that deep either but there are benefits to it. We have depth; keen perceptions, understanding and we have a great level of emotional intelligence.  The depth came at a high price I know. But it's a good thing.

5. Spirituality - I'm not preaching any particular religion here, I'm just saying that going through this process will make you a praying man or woman. If you don't believe in God and it's 3 o'clock‬ in the morning and thunderclouds are attacking your sanity whom do you call out to for help? Recovery is a very spiritual journey. You don't have to be religious but if you are deep and you are wise you will be spiritual. ‬‬‬‬‬‬

6. NAS Will Make You More Interesting - our scars give us character, uniqueness and they make us much more interesting.  In must be the most interesting man alive then, uh?  "You don't learn from successes. You don't learn from awards.  You only learn from wounds and scars and mistakes and failures". - Jane Fonda


7. You Will Be More Intuitive - going through this process will make you more intuitive. While I don't notice some covert narcissists immediately it usually doesn't take me too long to figure them out. I still get fooled for a little bit but the time that somebody can love bomb me professionally or in any other way before I figure out who they is over. You must have a finally honed intuition in order to survive in this world.

8. You Realize That You Have Options - with the additional passion, calling and creativity you realize that there are lots of options career wise in this world. You don't have to clutch on to what you used to have, or who you used to be. You can move forward into a new true home of belonging.

9. You Will Earn Respect - when you embrace your recovery with courage, with honor, with wisdom and with zeal people will see you for who you are and they will gain a great deal of respect for you.

10. Fierceness 

11. More Connection With Nature - The healthier you get I believe you will naturally develop a closer relationship with nature. A few weeks ago I wrote a poem about lying down and falling asleep in the bed of clover by my sacred river. I feel peaceful and spiritual just imagining that lovely bed of clover by my sacred river. 

12. You Find Out Who Your Real Friends are - you don't always know who your real friends are. 

13. Imagining A New Life - as you get healthier you will quite naturally reinvent yourself. You will have a healthy version, a re-imagining of who you are and what your place in the world is. 

14. It Makes Your Relationship Make Sense -  It has helped me fit all the pieces of the puzzle together. It's not a pretty picture but it beats the hell out of the pitch darkness.

15. Development Of A Team - it does not pay in life to be a lone wolf. People need people. Going through this will cause you to open up your self and reach out to the healthy people in the world. It is wonderful to have a loyal encouraging team covering your back.

16. Humor - as you begin to have joy your humor will return to you. 

17. It Will Make You Work On Your Issues - Duh!

18. The Hero's Journey - everybody who walks this journey who experiences such ravaging wolves and lives to tell about it is a hero.

19. Improved Health - if you do the work and the exercise and the yoga and the meditation and the therapy and the EMDR and you continue to learn and heal then you my friend will be blessed with better physical health as well.

20. You Learn To Not Care What People Think - I need to add a book to the booklist and make it #18. We rescuing empaths tend to carry around too much guilt and shame and that make us care too much about what people think. 

21. You Become A Champion And Beacon Of Light!

22. You Will Be More Authentic

23. Much Great Appreciation For Peace, Joy, Safety -

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