Rule #17 Never neglect your old friends because of a new relationship.
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Channel: Antonio Borrello · 2017 · Howto & Style
Do you have a friend or friends who spent time with you when they were single, but disappear when they are in a new relationship? Ya know, the friends who get so caught up in their new relationships that they stop doing the things they used to do. They stop spending time with their good friends and instead spend all of their non-working time hanging out with their new boyfriend / girlfriend? Well, Rule # 17 is.. Never neglect the people and things who were important to you prior to your relationship. In this video, we will discuss why people make this dramatic change when they get into new relationships. And, we'll also talk about how this practice is bad for your relationship. There is a common belief that people are on their best behavior when they are in brand new relationships. They are generally more agreeable, polite, thoughtful... as they get to know their new partner. Of course, this is normal.. you're on your best behavior and hoping that the two of you will feel sparks of chemistry and attraction. Things go wrong when one partner is too focused on winning the affection of their partner by being the "perfect boyfriend or girlfriend". These people subscribe to the belief that people will like you more if you are always agreeable, thoughtful, and always going along with the ideas or activity choices proposed by your partner. They also believe that thoughtfulness, agreeableness and love should get the same in return. Unfortunately, This isn't always what happens and the relationship can become lopsided. Don’t neglect or drop the friends who were with you before your relationship. Your friendships are part of who you are… giving them up will lead to feelings of resentment and neglect and foster too much dependence on your partner. If your relationship comes to an end, who will you turn to for support? Welcome to my channel. I'm Dr. Antonio Borrello, a psychologist and dating and relationship expert and author of Dating 3.0: Finding Love in the Age of Social Media and the Smart Phone. Join me on Twitter, Instagram, and other social media as @eDatingDr.
