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Freedom From Judgment

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Channel: Damon Cart NLP · 2016 · People & Blogs

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Fear of being judged is one of the biggest obstacles holding you back.

How much do you actually fear failure and how much is it actually about the fear of being judged a failure by others?

What could you do if you had no fear of your worth being judged by yourself or others? I assure you judging yourself when you screw up is not helping you. You can easily acknowledge a mistake and correct it without judging yourself.

This fear runs deep for more reasons than just your conditioning. 

When you were a child you feared your parents' judgement. Why was this scary? Because you didn't know if disappointing your parents or making them upset would cause them to withdraw their love. The withdrawal of love is what children experience when they feel judged by their parents and it's scary.

This fear stays with us and really comes out in our teen years when we're hyper aware of judgment from our peers.

When we reach adulthood we feel the need to make our way and prove ourselves worthy out of fear of being judged a loser, a slut, an idiot, lazy, etc.

Our instincts dictate a deep sense of fear of being ostracized from the group, from the tribe, from the village. As humans we've operated this way for millions of years. If you were excommunicated from the group it meant you were dead. You could not survive in a harsh world without the support of the whole.

We don't have that problem anymore, but you're body and mind still function as if we do. Think about that, you don't have to worry being judged in today's society because you don't have to depend on others to live.

So how do we free ourselves from judgment?

Just tell yourself to not worry about what other people think of you enough times. And you will still fear being judged by others. It irritates me when people say not to worry about what others think as if it's that simple. Good advice but it never worked for me.

Telling yourself not to worry about what other's think causes you to focus on what other's think in order to not focus on what other's think. Does that even make sense? NOPE!

I have a really simple solution and it's something I discovered during Trance Camp when I was working on what I wanted to bring into the world.  What was stopping me?

Fear of judgment was stopping me. Big surprise.

And the answer to this problem was clear as crystal.

Stop judging.

Stop judging yourself and stop judging others.

When you judge yourself or you judge others you are playing the judging game and you are subject to judgment just like everyone else.

You can unplug from the judgment matrix by simply not judging anymore and focusing your attention in a more positive and generative direction.

Judgment is great when you use it to assess situations and to make good decisions, but when you use it to draw conclusions especially about the identity of others, you subject yourself to the same.

People judge in order to make themselves feel superior. People judge because they fear being judged. People open themselves to judgment when they judge others.

Knock it off. It's not serving you.

Monitor yourself. Put an ink mark on your hand or set the alarm on your phone to go off three times a day to remind you to do something better with your mind than judging. 

You will find yourself judging before you can stop it. That's okay. Mistakes will happen. It's your response to the mistake that matters. Get your center back. Undo the judgment and move on. If you beat yourself up for judging, you're just judging yourself. 

Stop the insanity!

Now go out in the world and live a judgment free life and be amazed at how much ass you kick in life when you're fearless!

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