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The death of "poor me" | Jessica Steele | TEDxSemesterAtSea

2,377 views · Published 5 November 2014 · 11:36 · Indexed 2 October 2026

Channel: TEDx Talks · 2014 · Nonprofits & Activism

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This talk was given at a local TEDx event, produced independently of the TED Conferences. Jessica Steele, a junior at the University of Florida, presented “The Death of ‘Poor Me’.” Exemplifying incredible poise, Jessica discussed sexually and physically abusive relationships she was in as early as 16 years old. She shared this intimate story in order to have a conversation about the misconceptions of the definition of “rape.” Jessica explained how she was able to overcome the mental trauma associated with her abuse, and eventually get past a cycle of self-hatred through counseling at college.

Jessica shifted her focus from “being outward to “being inward,” by taking control of her past and not letting it define her. Jessica encouraged listeners who may also struggle with past events: “Open up. Talk to someone about it. Don’t let your past dictate who you are today. Let it be a chance and opportunity to grow.” Hundreds of listeners in the Union gave Jessica a standing ovation for her bravery and inspiration.

Jessica Steele is a third-year student at the University of Florida. She does not currently know what she wants to major in, but will probably focus on either Sustainability or Communications. She has an international background, with a Brazilian mother and an American father. She has made traveling a top priority in her life, so that she may continue to learn about and experience multiple cultures. She doesn’t define herself as being “from” any specific location/culture. Jessica speaks five languages (English, Portuguese, Spanish, French, and Arabic), and loves to read, study, and learn from the people around her every day. When she is not working or studying, Jessica enjoys spending time with the people she loves, focusing on personal growth, meditating, and practicing yoga.

Jessica’s TEDx Talk focuses on the SELF, and on shifting our paradigm of focus from being outward to being inward. She is honored and feels blessed to have a shot at expressing herself at TEDx Semester at Sea.

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