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Dating After Narcissistic Abuse

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Channel: Mark Smith Family Tree Life Coaching · 2016 · People & Blogs

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Mark Smith shares from his own experience in 'Semi-Healthy Dating After Narcissistic Abuse'

Mark E. Smith, MSW is the Founder and Director of Family Tree Life Coaching. He previously worked as a highly respected therapist and author in the Indianapolis area for 32+ years. He now practices as a Life and Relationship Coach. He offers coaching for individuals, couples, families, family businesses, executive leaders, pastors, and therapists. He has world class coaching expertise in Affair Recovery, Relationship Issues, Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome, Sexual Addiction, Abuse, Trauma, Complex PTSD, Anxiety, Mid-Life Issues, Shame and Abandonment Issues. If you need a safe, courageous, cutting, marriage-jolting healer, he is your guy. You can contact Mark Smith at [email protected] and 317-507-8866.

                        A Tale of Two Theresa’s

Theresa #1 – Former Client of Mine

QUESTION: Here's a question for next week's live stream, or possibly NOT live stream, lol. I'm not dating yet, just not ready, but at some point in the future, I might. How do we navigate new relationships, given that we are attracted to a certain "type".  I know in your past videos, Mark, you mentioned that if we're attracted to covert Narcissists, for example, the goal would be to find a "pliable" one, meaning a person who is at least working on his/her issues in some way. Does this mean dating only those who are in therapy (or have been for some time, or WILL be going to therapy)? Cluster B's are notorious for NOT looking at their issues. I can't imagine dating someone who is averse to therapy, because that means they're not at all interested in personal growth/learning about themselves, etc....which means lots of difficulties for the partner (us). How can we choose more wisely, what do we look for and how do we navigate this difficult territory in finding new relationships? I would prefer not to be alone for the rest of my life, if possible.

1. Who will we be attracted to?  Not 6’s, Love = Therapy

2. Chemistry + Workability/Pliability 1, 2, 3, 4, 5
 + A Great Therapist + Time

3. How can we choose more wisely, what do we look for and how do we navigate this difficult territory in finding new relationships?  Not about picking the nicest person you can find – not that simple

Theresa #2 Awakened From Narcissistic Abuse
No Apologies-Calling Out Mark Smith of Family Tree Counseling
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zF5dC7CtrvY
• Appreciate the Love, Positive Energy, Protectiveness
• Reminded me of me
• “You said that your current girlfriend is a borderline.”
• “You are fucking with your kryptonite, Mark.”
• “I hope that this video pisses you off enough that you see flashing lights.” – PLEASE, NO MORE PUBLIC CALL OUTS, NOT APPROPRIATE
• I said that she was NOT Cluster B but that she had A LOT of issues
• My Girlfriend – 
As much knowledge as Sam Vaknin, 500+ videos on Narcissistic Abuse, Sweet, Smart, Similar Callings, Pretty, Funny

Broken, Under Functioning, C-PTSD, Healthy Issues, Money Issues, Major Ex/Child Issues – Working On Another Aspect of My Childhood Wounding

1.  Pick Someone You Have Chemistry With 
2.  Be Afraid (But Not Paralyzed)
3.  Get Feedback From Your Friends
4.  Have Fun
5.  Work On It In Your Therapy
6.  Have Conflict
7.  Workability/Pliability
8.  Seek Balance
9.  Give It Lots Of Time
10. Be Whole When You Aren’t With Them

And That’s All I Have To Say About That

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