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Should You Kill Your Ego?

513 views · Published 7 June 2016 · 8:56 · Indexed 26 October 2026

Channel: Damon Cart NLP · 2016 · People & Blogs

You can't kill something that is imaginary.

Killing the ego is like trying to kill your reflection in a body of water.

The ego is the imagination of your self. It can also be called a self image or a self-concept.

You could also call it a generalization. It's the selection and collection of life experiences especially the ones you make meaning of and project meaning about yourself onto the world.

NLP is the study of the structure of subjective experience. All experience is subjective so we can throw out the subjective part. It's a bit redundant.

NLP is about discovering the structure of your reality and your reality is a projection of your ego onto the world. Discover the structure and you can then change it and improve it.

NLP is about strengthening your ego. A strong ego is not arrogance. A strong ego is durable, resilient, and open to feedback.

Arrogance is an indication of a weak ego, an uncertain self-concept. Arrogant people aren't open to feedback because they can't take it. It threatens their sense of self.

A strong ego comprises a database of certain qualities like intelligence, kindness, etc. These qualities comprise life experiences that support and confirm the certainty of the quality.

A strong quality will have counter examples to the quality. For example, I know that I'm intelligent. I also know that I do stupid things from time to time. The majority of examples in my database of the quality of intelligence is of experiences where I felt intelligent. About 5% to 10% of those examples though are experiences where I did something stupid or ignorant.

These counterexamples don't weaken my sense of being intelligent. Instead they ground my sense of intelligence, open me to feedback about my intelligence, and strengthen my sense of intelligence because I feel intelligent in spite of the counterexamples.

It's unfortunately common that people who get really good at NLP also become arrogant. I've met many arrogant trainers and some of them are renowned trainers.

My opinion about this is that when you get really good at NLP you can be very effective of riding yourself of all negative and embarrassing experiences from your self-concept to the point where you become less grounded, less open to feedback, and since you have no counterexamples to your qualities there's nothing to challenge them.

Don't try to kill your ego. Just program yourself for wholeness. A great way to do that is hypnosis.

Should You Kill Your Ego?

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