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10 Ways to Heal Through Traumatizing Transitions

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Channel: Mark Smith Family Tree Life Coaching · 2017 · People & Blogs

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Mark Smith shares comforting scriptures for those struggling with traumatizing transitions caused by narcissistic abuse.

Mark E. Smith, MSW is the Founder and Director of Family Tree Life Coaching. He previously worked as a highly respected therapist and author in the Indianapolis area for 32+ years. He now practices as a Life and Relationship Coach. He offers coaching for individuals, couples, families, family businesses, executive leaders, pastors, and therapists. He has world class coaching expertise in Affair Recovery, Relationship Issues, Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome, Sexual Addiction, Abuse, Trauma, Complex PTSD, Anxiety, Mid-Life Issues, Shame and Abandonment Issues. If you need a safe, courageous, cutting, marriage-jolting healer, he is your guy. You can contact Mark Smith at [email protected] and 317-507-8866.

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• Renee Fisher is an adoring wife to Marc and mom to their pit bull named Star. She is a spirited speaker and author of four books, including Forgiving Others, Forgiving Me (Harvest House, 2013). 

1. Walk a Straight Path
King Solomon wrote, "Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you. Give careful thought to the paths for your feet and be steadfast in all your ways. Do not turn to the right or the left; keep your foot from evil." This can be tricky when you're not sure WHICH path to take--let alone walk in a straight line. BE RELENTLESS!  ROCKY BALBOA!!!
     
2. Be Bold and Courageous
The Lord had told the Israelites many times to be bold and courageous, however--Joshua and Caleb were the only two men who brought back a good report about the giants in the Promised Land. Every time God asks us (or forces us) to transition, it's easy to only see the giants instead of bountiful possibilities and the possible new blessings. 

3. Embrace Your Narcissistic Abuse as a Gift
Watch out for King Saul: At some point we all have a King Saul’s in our life. Saul unjustly persecuted David, chasing him, trying to kill him. Have you ever had a spear throwing person in your life? Maybe a boss, family member or someone close to you who unjustly attacked you. 

4. Rediscover Your Purpose
The world is a bountiful place filled with unlimited opportunities.  Don’t be afraid to re-invent yourself.   “Don't take this unexpected situation with the practice as a negative...maybe it's happening so you can officially take the world by storm and write your magnum opus!”   Urban Dictionary - “Your Magna Opus is your masterpiece, your greatest, most popular or most renowned achievement as an artist, writer or composer.” 

6. Squeeze Every Bit of Personal Insight You Can Out Of Your Pain Situation
 
International Standard Version Isaiah 61:1
“He has sent me to bring good news to the oppressed and to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives, and release from darkness for the prisoners.”

7. It's Not All About You
Maybe God has you going through what you're going through so you can encourage others. 

7. Surround Yourself a Recovery Community
It's important to keep those family and friends closest who are the most encouraging.  It takes a village.  Text lists.  “I am in a difficult, beginning stage of my healing journey without family or friends near. No social network around, so things are pretty tough.” - Anna

8. Repair the Financial Destruction
Another key to finishing strong is to manage your finances. You never know when you might change or lose your job. It's important to pay your bills on time and pay off your debts so you can go the distance (like taking time off to figure out where to go next)! If you are currently struggling under the weight or pressure of finances, I hope you will be encouraged to hear that Paul wrote in Hebrews 13:5, "Be content with what you have, because God has said, 'Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”

9. You Can Trust the Universe – It’s You That You Have To Worry About!
“Often times, the most blessed times of my life have been during trials because it forced me to draw nearer to the Father heart of God.” There are no atheists in foxholes.  You have to make it safe.  My life has been unsafe and unstable for 11+ years due to my issues, my choices and my naivety.  

10. God Will Bless You (in His Timing)
“Looking back on the past five years while on (while struggling with depression), I am still in shock that God blessed me to be able to write five books. God loves to give us an amazing inheritance when we feel like we least deserve it.”  David wrote in Psalm 23:4-6, "Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. Surely goodness and mercy will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever."

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