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Alchemists - We Turn Shit Into Gold!

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Channel: Mark Smith Family Tree Life Coaching · 2017 · People & Blogs

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Mark Smith shares some of Chapter 3 of his new book Becoming An Alchemist - How To Transform The Trauma Of Shattering And Narcissistic Abuse Into Pure Gold

Alchemy - “An ancient form of chemistry concerned principally with discovering methods for transmuting baser metals into gold; a seemingly magical process of transformation, creation, or combination; finding a universal solvent or an elixir of life” – Merriam-Webster Dictionary

Chapter 3 – Flying Monkeys Masquerading as Therapist

“The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was to convince the world that he didn’t exit.”- 18th Century French Poet Charles Pierre Baudelaire

I have always loved movies where there is an apparent good guy or gal who ultimately shows them to be a psychopathic monster.  Hum, I wonder why I liked such movies?  Susan and I watched them all the time – ‘Body Heat’, ‘Single White Female’, ‘Pacific Heights’ and one of my favorite movies ‘The Usual Suspects’.  That must have been fun for her.  If you haven’t seem ‘The Usual Suspects’ then you are in for a real treat.  In a classic scene, mild mannered Verbal Kent played by the incomparable Kevin Spacey explained how the legendary mythic world class evil villain ‘Keyser Söze’ manged to fly under the radar for so long when he quoted the 18th Century French Poet Charles Pierre Baudelaire as saying “The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was to convince the world that he didn’t exit.” 

I went to six good therapists and two treatment centers to get help for my condition in the past several years and NONE OF THEM had the slightest fucking clue what my correct diagnosis was or what had happened to me.  I knew what happened to me was epic and deeply destructive but no one ever came close to intelligently explaining it.  It is hard to get better when you don’t know what you have.  It wasn’t until seven full months after my shattering that I finally got my answers by reading the life saving book ‘Psychopath Free By Jackson McKenzie.  Thank God for that book and thank God for that man.  
I don’t fault my therapists for not knowing what ‘Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome’ was.  I had been a therapist for 28 years and I had not heard of it.  One of my clients tried to explain it to me but I was too narrow-minded and it sounded too much like victim mentality, which it is not.  Five of my six therapists were wonderful, caring, empathetic, highly competent professionals who just had not heard about this growing plague on our society.  One of my therapists was a cold, judgmental, medical modeled, clueless narcissist who did much more harm to me than good.  Be careful whom you trust.  I got my first clue as to what had happened to be by jogging around the grounds of OnSite while listening to Rochelle Learner’s brilliant book ‘The Object Of My Obsession Is My Reflection’.  In it she broke down all the different types of narcissists that there are in the world.  I listened to that book maybe 20 times.

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