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Finding Happiness, Love, Peace, and Connection (Jonathan Robinson)

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Channel: CJ Liu · 2014 · Howto & Style

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CJ interviews best-selling author, Jonathan Robinson, on happiness tips from his book  “Finding Happiness Now”.  These are tips that take 5 min or less that you can try out during the busy holiday season.

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SHOW SUMMARY: 
Get some tips for feeling happy year around, but especially during the Holidays. 

* Ask “What does your ideal Christmas look like?”: Get clear with what holidays mean to you. Is it about peace, connection, love, forgiveness, fun, or something else? Let’s say the holidays mean having peace and connection, like it is with Jonathan. If this is your vision, then your time may be split between being alone, talking quiet walks in nature, and connecting one-on-one with a few people. Don’t feel pressure to meet the cultural definitions of the holidays that involve buying, rushing around, and entertaining. Consider celebrating the Holidays YOUR way.

* Buy all your friends the same gift: You got a great gift idea? Why do we need to buy a different gift for each person? Keep it simple. Just give this same gift to everyone. No one will know the better and you’ve saved yourself a bunch of time.

*Share simple gifts: Consider sending a list of your favorite songs, movies, and books for the calendar year as an inexpensive gift for your friends and family. This is a gift that is about sharing your life and happiness with others.

*Write a letter of gratitude to someone: Write a letter or read a letter out loud to someone who has touched you, like a teacher, relative, or a friend. Have a face-to-face connection and tell that person or read your letter that explains just how much that person has meant to you and how they impacted your life.

* What would create love and connection with the people you care about? What are things you can do to create happiness, joy, and love NOW. To often we postpone our happiness till the day Christmas happens. What would the holidays be like if we focused on happiness in the now?

*Gratitude is key for happiness and spiritual connection: When you feel grateful you feel filled up from within. Gratitude is a door way to peace, love, and kindness. Check out Jonathan’s funny story about gratitude: http://youtu.be/cZhygohD-EM?t=12m. Give your sincere thanks throughout your day and see how your energy is lighter and your outlook more merry.

* Schedule quality time in your calendar to connect: Schedule a weekly Skype meeting with friends to connect face-to-face connect time via Skype. Make sure to put the appointment in your calendar and make it a priority.
* Ask questions that will create intimacy: If you are having problems connecting with people during cocktail parties. Here are some questions you could ask that quickly create connection: What makes you happy? What are things that you really enjoy doing? What are your top three favorite movies? What are your greatest strengths/weaknesses?
* Reduce stress for up to 5 hours: Get out of your head and into your heart. Check out this very quick technique to try http://youtu.be/cZhygohD-EM?t=37m56s that will reduce cortisol levels for five hours.

3 Tips for creating your New Year’s resolutions

* Create a contract with yourself to achieve your goal: Set-up a goal with specifics on what you will deliver (e.g.- I will lose 5 lbs by 1/31/2015). Start creating a formal contract that you make with yourself. First start with goals by asking, “What you can I do to create a rich inner and outer life”? Commit yourself to the goal and create a consequence if you don’t hit your goal during the week. Try creating a consequence of ripping up $1 penalty for not hitting your deliverable.
* Match pleasure with pain. Look at how your behaviors cause pain in the past and in the future. For example, Jonathan describes his goal of eating fewer cookies. With this goal, write out the things that cause pain and pleasure. For example, your pain/pleasure list may look like this: PAIN: Eating too much cookies makes me fat, makes me feel like a hypocrite. PLEASURE: My body feels great, I don’t get sick, I feel like I conquered something. This helps you orient your goals to your body’s natural desire to move away from pain and toward pleasure.
* Proclaim your goals. Tell everybody your goals. This declaration helps in two ways. First,your friend and family will know your goals and will likely help keep you focused on achieving them. Plus, the fear of failure is an additional motivator.

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