Keep the Passion Alive & Have the Happiest Relationship - Interview #254 w/ Dr. Stan Tatkin
1,520 views · Published 31 October 2015 · 52:01 · Indexed 6 November 2026
Channel: Marie Benard · 2015 · Entertainment
Use the time stamps to jump to your favourite questions: 1:46 - introductions between boyfriend and Dr. Stan Tatkin 3:53 - what does "secure functioning" mean? 5:35 - one of the most important factors in maintaining a "couple bubble" is not threatening the relationship / talking about breaking up. But what about if you're dating and haven't decided that you will stay together? 7:00 - Dr. Tatkins says it takes about a year before our earliest fears really surface in relationship 7:40 - Dr. Tatkin points out a good way of relating between the hosts 8:53 - we are "all memory" - 90% of our day is memory driven 9:37 - Dr. Tatkin describes the 3 attachment styles (secure and insecure) 12:36 - how we pair bond 15:29 - keeping in touch with different lifestyles 16:38 - with all the information in your books and programs, what are the most important things that couples should start with? 18:58 - chemistry doesn't last, right? Dr. Tatkin discusses how you can keep passion alive. 21:04 - is "love addicted" and "love avoidant" the same as the "insecure" attachment types? Stan shares some of the challenges faced with each insecure attachment type. 23:14 - we react TO one another. A partner will only be as clingy and the other is distant, and vice versa 26:23 - Chris asks for an example of "vetting" our partners and introducing them to our friends and family 29:26 - Dr. Tatkin asks if we're getting married. Marie asks how important it is to be at similar life places - Dr. Tatkin discusses "cohort" and common goals and agreements in relationship 33:08 - how important is it to have shared interests? 36:04 - things change when you get married, right? Dr. Tatkin shares when those old fears get triggered. 38:41 - when Marie thinks about the future, she gets scared. Dr. Tatkin advises. 40:58 - what if one of us feels we aren't going to work out? 42:39 - Dr. Tatkin reminds Marie that it's her job to focus on her partner, not her own anxieties 43:47 - what "waves" and "islands" need to do for each other to stay regulated 45:50 - what's your favourite exercise in Wired for Love? Dr. Tatkin shares a few tips anyone can do to immediately improve your relationship 50:28 - Dr. Tatkin's final thoughts for couples We spoke with Dr. Stan Tatkin about how to create and maintain a "couple bubble" in a relationship, which makes your relationship super strong and supportive for both partners. We discussed his book, Wired for Love, and his audio program, Your Brain on Love. Wired for Dating comes out in January, 2016. Marie Benard's show, Synchronicity, airs on CiTR 101.9 FM in Vancouver. Her website is www.mariebenard.com you'll love Stan Tatkin if you like the following: Susan Armstrong, Matthew Hussey, Alison Armstrong, Men are from Mars Women Are from Venus, Oprah, Eckhart Tolle
