What Others Think About You...
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Channel: Damon Cart NLP · 2016 · People & Blogs
....doesn't matter as much as you think it does. Imagine living a life unconcerned about the opinions of others. How does it feel? Freeing? Damn right it does! We'll never be 100% unconcerned about what others think nor should we. That fear is there for good reason. Unfortunately though that fear controls most of us way too much. You want to be socially aware and socially well adjusted. This comes from a tribal instinct to be safe within the group. A million years ago if you were ostracized from the tribe it meant you were dead. People didn't live alone back then. They lived in packs for safety and for gathering food. You no longer have that problem. We also need to have a sense of connection and a sense of belonging, but you won't get that from trying to please everyone. You won't get that from worrying about what people think of you and you won't get that from fearing indulging your desires. If some people don't like you, you're probably doing something wrong. To be true to yourself means not everyone will like you mostly because your very presence calls attention to their worst fears. Allow yourself to be vulnerable in front of others. We fear being vulnerable in front of others but it takes courage to do this which translates into strength and power. This also creates charisma. Be the first to admit your mistakes. Nothing disarms a critic faster than calling attention to your own mistakes and shortcomings before they do. This will make you appear powerful and fearless as long as you don't overly apologize or ask for forgiveness. Ask for what you want! I can't say this enough times. Ask for what you want and assert yourself. I just bought a furniture set on clearance at a store today. The prices were great and the furniture was good quality. The clearance mark down implied this was the lowest possible price they could offer. The first words out of my mouth to the owner was "What kind of deal can you give me for this set?" It had crossed my mind that he would think I was an asshole for being so presumptuous, but that would be his issue not mine. "I can't mark it down," he said, "It's already on clearance." "Okay," I said continuing to look at him as if I was waiting for something. He ended up knocking $60 off and waived the $35 delivery fee. It's not much but I saved almost $100 just for asking. ====================================================== Make sure to not miss a single video from Damon! CLICK here to Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDeP... ====================================================== Damon Cart Coach and Trainer NLP-Gym.com Follow On Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/NLPGymPractice/ ====================================================== What Others Think About You... https://youtu.be/sT56rIsOAbY
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